The people who connect to “real you”, “your passion”, “your dreams”, “a feeling of lifting each other up in life” is called relationship, love, or connection. All other connections, feelings are just temporary happiness where both partners are just trying to be happy. The relationship is just not about physical and emotional love, it’s about connecting to each other’s dreams, desires, likes, dislikes, feelings, and thoughts.
These days couples are just looking for their matches in choice of food, drinking and smoking habits, social networking love, and of course money. Very soon they realize that they are not compatible and that too just because they had some arguments over issues that don’t even matter. Life is fast that does not mean you have to meet more people to find your perfect match.
According to me, there are two types of love that exist in this world. One is where “love happens” (mother love) and the other is where “you have to love” (Arrange marriage). Motherlove is connected to son/daughter’s heart, dreams, and happiness, love exists in “Arrange Marriage” too however both need to connect in such a way that they feel the same for each other dreams and passion and there should be no jealousy related to career or decisions.
“Happy Relationships” are less nowadays just because relationships are not independent. Marriage is not just about a boy and girl, it’s about families, and the interference between two families also plays a major role in destroying many relationships. Adjustment is not a solution as one could adjust to a certain limit for others’ happiness. Once you start adjusting, people will expect more from you and the person will be in a bigger mess.
The secret of a happy relationship is “prioritizing”. You both must mutually decide the things that can’t be tolerated like “affair” or “disrespect”. You must be very clear in your mind about limits in a relationship so that your self-respect is never compromised. Be clear in saying that “I will never be able to compromise on trust”.
“Every girl is looking for a perfect boy and every boy is looking for a perfect girl however the problem is no one wants to be perfect”.
Starting a relationship is easy and breaking that relationship is “not at all difficult”. The difficulty is maintaining the “relationship” through the ups and downs of life as that needs a lot of effort.
